Habitual Sin: Pastor’s experience shows Christians can find freedom
Posted: 1/04/08
Habitual Sin: Pastor's experience
shows Christians can find freedom
By George Henson
Staff Writer
JAYTON—For years, David Erik Jones worked hard to keep his sin hidden. But now it seems everyone knows—probably all 513 people living in Jayton. They know because he told them, and he wrote about it in his book—My Struggle, Your Struggle: Breaking Free from Habitual Sin.
“I can’t believe I’m actually talking about something that I worked so hard for so many years to keep hidden,” Jones said. But he hopes his confession will help other Christians confront their sin and discover hope in his story of deliverance from a longtime addiction to pornography.
Jones believes his addiction started at age 9 when he looked at a Playboy magazine at a neighbor’s home. It remained a struggle for Jones until about seven years ago, when God enabled him to control the power lust had on his life.
He succeeded in keeping his problem a secret from just about everyone except his wife and daughters until about three years ago, when he revealed it to his congregation at First Baptist Church in Jayton.
“About six months after coming here as pastor, I shared with the church that I struggled with pornography, but not with any detail at all,” he said. “Still, it was probably the most difficult sermon I’ve ever preached.”
In the days following that sermon, three men came to him to say they struggled in similar areas, and an informal support group sprung up.
Unlike that initial sermon, Jones’ book goes into some detail—not graphic, and in no sense glorifying his sin-laden past, but direct and to the point.
“This brought up some painful memories for me—some things I had probably tried really hard to suppress. I’ve cried a lot, and it’s probably been harder on my wife than on me,” he confessed.
He credits his wife of 18 years, Vallarie, with providing the support that enabled him to continue the fight to overcome his sin rather than just give in.
“I hope it comes through in everything I say and everything I wrote how much I love and appreciate her,” Jones said. “I couldn’t have done it without her, and I know I can’t begin to understand the depth of her pain.”
His daughters, ages 17 and 13, also have been supportive throughout the process as Jones has become increasingly open about his problem with pornography.
| “What in the past I hid in shame can now bring glory to God. What I did in darkness can now point people to the light.” |
“My daughters knew of my struggle but not the depth of how it affected my life. I can’t think of one time when they have let me see that they were ashamed of me,” Jones said, as tears rolled down his face. “I can’t help but get emotional about that. If I thought they were ashamed of me, it would kill me.”
Most of his congregation likewise have encouraged and affirmed him.
“The majority were supportive and understand why I’m sharing my story—to reach out and help others. A lady told me yesterday, ‘This makes you more human,’” Jones said.
“The way I’ve tried to think about this is, if someone stands up and says, ‘I have an alcohol problem,’ we all surround them with love and support. But if someone admits some sort of sexual sin, then too often they are shunned. And that can be particularly true in the church.”
Jones hopes his book and the Scripture that helped him find his way will benefit people who struggle with any type of habitual sin.
“The book focuses on my struggle with pornography, but I hope it is helpful to those who struggle with alcohol, drugs, envy, pride—all those things that can be handled in the same way—turning our struggle over to God,” Jones said.
For many years, Jones wanted to quit, but nothing really changed until he stopped trying merely to extract the sin from his life, he said. He finally discovered he needed to fill that void in his life with the things of God.
“That’s been the greatest discovery,” Jones said. “For the longest time, I said: ‘This is wrong. It’s hurting your family. It’s hurting your life. It’s wrong. Stop it, stop it, stop it.’ I’d quit for a while and go right back to it a few days, weeks or months later. I finally began to earnestly seek God’s plan for dealing with sin and putting that into action. I didn’t realize it at the time, but God and his word were taking up the hole in my life where lust had been.”
While the first half of the book deals with Jones’ struggle with pornography, the second half is prescription taken from the Bible on how to deal with habitual sin—regardless of its nature. More than anything, Jones said, he wants people who struggle with sin to know there is hope.
“I know that there are people who are in this struggle or one like it, and I hope this brings hope to those who think their sin is forever and that they will never be able to break free.”
For years, he lived a life without hope, he said.
“Lust was an old friend to me,” Jones said. “It was who I was. I still have a propensity toward lust, but I know with Christ’s help, I can live a life of purity. I don’t have to walk around with this darkness surrounding me. I can walk in the light.”
Awareness of people who think they have no hope—especially Christians whose spiritual walk is hampered by sin—prompted Jones to step out instead of keeping his struggle and victory over it private.
“There are many, many young people—and even older adults—who struggle with these things, and someone needs to step up for them and give them the support and hope they so desperately need,” Jones said. “I can’t just stand back and say, ‘I hope someone else does that,’ and stay hidden.
“I’m passionate; this is how God made me. I can empathize with people locked in sin, whether it’s pornography, alcohol or some other sin. I know what it is like to be controlled by sin.”
Jones hopes he will be asked to speak to youth and college groups, as well as men’s groups, to offer the hope he has found.
“What in the past I hid in shame can now bring glory to God. What I did in darkness can now point people to the light,” he said.






