BaptistWay Bible Series for June17: Helpers who are no help
Posted: 6/07/07
BaptistWay Bible Series for June 17
Helpers who are no help
• Job 4:1-9; 8:1-6; 11:1-6, 13-15
Hardin-Simmons University, Abilene
While watching a memorial service on television for the victims of this past April’s shootings at Virginia Tech, I asked myself, “If I were asked to speak, what comfort would I be able to bring to the community and survivors?” Suffering and misery exist in our everyday life, whether through the death of someone we know, an illness that brings pain and sickness, or sudden tragedy somewhere around us.
Our emotions are stirred as we deal with what has happened and as we think of those directly affected. As we come in contact with them, we often are at a loss for what to say. Perhaps we say nothing at all when we see them suffer, or maybe we explain how we have been able to deal with it by communicating to them what we think and believe about God and evil.
The friends of Job were forced to speak with Job and attempt to bring comfort to him in the midst of his tragedy.
Job 4:1-9
After Job spoke of his personal struggle, his friend, Eliphaz, spoke in response. It is important to note that all three friends and Job shared the common viewpoint that suffering was a result of sin. Though Eliphaz listened to Job, he could not help but point out that Job had been the comforter in the past. He of all others should have been able to understand what was happening to him and why. Eliphaz meant well, but his comments were of no help to Job.
Eliphaz’s discourse was based on the fact that Job must have done something wrong because those “who plow evil and those who sow trouble reap it.”
Think about the people you might encounter who might be struggling like Job. What would you say? Would you try to help them understand that their suffering was because of something they did? Even if it were true, (in Job’s case it was not since Job was blameless) would that really bring comfort? Let us not fall prey to the temptation to reason in our minds why things are going wrong—as did Eliphaz.
Job 8:1-6
The next friend to “comfort” Job was his friend Bildad. Like Eliphaz, Bildad tried to bring understanding to the situation. Perhaps if Job could have thought logically about the causes and effects of the situation, he might not have grieved so deeply.
As someone comforting a person who is suffering, we might think that would help. It might be the very thing that has helped us deal with the situation. However, we are clearly able to separate ourselves from the situation emotionally while those who are suffering are most likely incapable of doing that.
When Bildad tried this approach, he made two mistakes. First, he attempted to defend God (more likely his personal views of God) and God’s righteousness. However, Bildad used little discretion, and he even proposed that Job’s children’s deaths were the result of their sin. Would that bring “comfort” to you if someone said those words to you?
Second, Bildad asked Job to plead with God and turn to him if he was pure and upright. However, Bildad was basing this on the idea that suffering was the result of punishment from sin. The words of Job’s friends were filled with enough truths about God that we can confuse their advice as authoritative Scripture. Remember to read Job as an ongoing dialogue about Job’s suffering, and be cautious of reading verses out of context.
Job 11:1-6, 13-15
When we see people struggle and suffer, it is hard for us to understand their behavior. We find it difficult to relate to what they are experiencing.
I believe that is where Zophar found himself while listening to Job speak. He was listening to Job say he was flawless, yet in Zophar’s mind this just could not have been. Zophar believed suffering was the result of sin and nothing “just happens.” So, Zophar quickly reminded Job that not only had he sinned, but God probably had forgotten some of Job’s sin. Zophar then reminded Job to get rid of the sin in his life and things would go well for him. Why did this not bring comfort to Job?
Zophar, like the other friends, was wrong. Job’s suffering was not the result of sin. Zophar had not been listening to Job.
Let this be a warning to us that when we attempt to comfort someone, we must listen to what they are saying and not be determined to have them think like we do. Instead let us listen first and speak only after we have truly heard about their pain and why they are suffering.
Discussion question
• Do we have a responsibility as friends to comfort those around us who might be suffering?
• Have you said something that was inappropriate or done something with little discretion while trying to comfort someone before? How can you avoid making those mistakes in the future?
• When we suffer, how does our view of God comfort us or bring us pain?
• What are some positive things we can do or say to those who suffer?
Andy Rodgers is a master of arts in family ministry student at Hardin- Simmons University’s Logsdon Seminary. He also is youth minister at First Baptist Church in Eastland.
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