EDITORIAL: Just the antidote for social isolation
Posted: 8/18/06
EDITORIAL:
Just the antidote for social isolation
America is an increasingly lonely place.
The average American’s circle of close friends has closed significantly, signaled by a one-third drop in the number of people with whom we can discuss important matters.
These findings surfaced in research conducted by sociologists at Duke University and the University of Arizona. They compared national polls from 1985 and 2004. American Sociological Review published their study this summer. Time magazine and newswatch.com reported the findings.
The surveys revealed the average number of people with whom Americans can discuss important matters declined by almost one-third, from 2.94 people to 2.08. And nearly 25 percent of Americans said they have absolutely no one with whom they can discuss such matters. That figure has more than doubled.
“Americans have fewer confidants, and those ties are also more family-based than they used to be,” Lynn Smith-Lovin, a sociology professor at Duke and one of the study’s authors, told newswatch.com. “This change indicates something that’s not good for our society. Ties with a close network of people create a safety net … of people who will help and support us, both in terms of routine tasks and also of extreme emergency.”
The shrinking number of close contacts reflects increasing dependence upon spouses and parents but less interaction with friends.
When viewed as mere statistics—each person has 2.08 really close friends as opposed to 2.94 (as if you could have 0.04 or 0.94 of a friend)—the change may seem insignificant. But that’s not true, Robert Putnam, a professor at Harvard University, wrote in a Time essay: “As a friend said, ‘So what if the average American now has two close friends, not three? Two is plenty.’ But that’s like saying, ‘If global temperatures rise from 65ºF to 70ºF, I wouldn’t even notice.’ That’s fine, as long as you ignore the indirect effects, like mega-hurricanes in the Gulf.”
This “indirect effects” of social isolation are numerous and troubling, added Putnam, who wrote Bowling Alone, a book on the problem. “Kids fail to thrive. Crime rises. Politics coarsens. Generosity shrivels. Death comes sooner.”
Researchers point to several possibilities for America’s increasing isolation. They admit people may have answered the question differently in 1985 than they did in 2004, defining “discuss” or “important” differently. But they also cite other changes that may contribute to the tightening circle of friends: More people move because of their jobs, scattering family and friends. People spend more time at work and less time in social activities outside their homes. Technology both absorbs larger blocks of time and makes face-to-face contact less frequent. Putnam also fingers suburban sprawl and longer commutes, two-career families, ethnic diversity and—his “favorite culprit”—TV.
Social isolation presents the U.S. church with a challenge and an opportunity.
First, the challenge: The trend toward scaling back on friendships and staying home impacts all kinds of social institutions. Putnam’s Bowling Alone documents this phenomenon and gets its name from Americans’ declining involvement in all kinds of groups, including bowling leagues. So, if people are less inclined to be “joiners,” they’ll be less inclined to get involved in a church. No matter the reason, whether they’re far from the place where they grew up, overworked, addicted to video games or moon-eyed in front of the tube, they’re standing off from signing up. If the statistics are anywhere near correct, this cuts into church attendance, not to mention membership.
Now, the opportunity: This country is full of lonely people who need a friend. They may not yet know they need a relationship with Jesus, but deep down, they realize they need friends. A few years ago in The Purpose Driven Church, Rick Warren identified fellowship, the task of encouraging and sustaining people, as one of the five purposes of the church. Too often, church people tend to denigrate fellowship as merely “social.” But people are social beings, who need interaction with each other or else they will die. So, we’re talking about a life-sustaining ministry.
How do we do this? Look inward and outward. We need to examine church rolls for members who have dropped out but who need to be contacted, encouraged and loved. And we need to study our communities, looking for interesting, winsome ways to bring folks together. If you don’t know how to do that, start with a door-to-door survey, asking people how your church can help them feel part of a community. If the research is correct, they’re already home. Alone.
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