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Posted: 9/5/03
College orientation isn't just for students any more
By Teresa Young
Wayland Baptist University
PLAINVIEW–As soon as Pam and Don Trotter of Littlefield arrived on the Wayland Baptist University campus a few years back to move their son Clay into his dorm room, Mrs. Trotter began to dread the upcoming Saturday afternoon.
That's when the “Big Bye-Bye” is scheduled, the formal time for parents and new students to make the break that signals a new phase in life for both parents and children.
| Wayland's Baptist Student Ministries director, Donnie Brown, reassures parents of his role in helping provide opportunities for spiritual growth for students. Brown was one of several campus leaders who addressed parents during orientation for new students and their parents. |
Painful though it was, however, the event was not nearly as excruciating as it could have been, Mrs. Trotter said, thanks to a carefully crafted orientation program.
“It made the transition easier, even though I was crying my eyes out,” she recalled.
This year, the Trotters were back on campus to deliver their last child, Bryan, to his freshman year. While still emotional, the time was not nearly as difficult, Mrs. Trotter said.
Dale and Beverly Thurman of Littlefield agreed. The ease they found in leaving Ryan, their second child to attend Wayland, was created in part by the orientation program for parents, they said.
“Here, you're a family,” Thurman explained. “The staff is so warm, and they know our students by name.”
Wayland's freshman orientation weekend, called Koinonia after the Greek word for fellowship, features a variety of activities designed to help new students bond with one another and with a select group of upperclassmen as they ease into the college experience.
But orientation at Wayland offers a track for parents as well.
“Koinonia is designed to have parents and students together. Most of the questions come from parents at the beginning,” explained Brian McClenagan, a Wayland counselor. “As the day moves on, we ease the parents and students apart. By the evening time, the students are doing one thing, and the parents are off doing something else.”
The events are designed to introduce parents to the Wayland family of administrators, faculty and staff and familiarize them with the campus so that they feel more at ease leaving a son or daughter. By the time the goodbyes come on Saturday, most parents are comfortable with the break.
“Hopefully by this time, the parents have seen that they're leaving their child in a good place and that their students are almost ready for parents to leave,” McClenagan said. “Parents view college as an investment, and it's nice to know that they're getting their money's worth–or more. Orientation is our chance to help them feel like they've made the right decision.”
The reassurance offered through orientation definitely helped Frank and Sandy Drury of Lubbock, who brought their only daughter, Brianne, to Wayland this year. They arrived on Friday and stayed for the parents' portion of orientation, which includes information sessions, a Friday night mixer and a breakfast for parents at the home of Wayland President Paul Armes and his wife, Duanea. Facing their first experience leaving a student at college, the Drurys found the process eased by the activities.
“The students really made Brianne feel welcome. It's personal, and everyone here is so helpful and available,” Drury said. “You get to meet people and get to know other folks, and that takes a lot of the anxiety out.”
After the goodbyes, Wayland officials urge parents to check in occasionally with their children but allow room for the student to be independent and make friends. Students are encouraged to stay on campus for at least the first three weekends, preferably until fall break.
“That initial period, from when they leave to when they come home for the first time, is critical,” McClenegan said. “That's a great time of growth.”
McClenagan said parents should be aware, too, that when the first visit back home does come, the parents may be in for an awakening.
“They'll be different,” he said. “Parents shouldn't get their feelings hurt if the student gets home on Friday, does their laundry and can't wait to get back to school. That's a good sign.”

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